It was one of those rare times when I was leaving for home early when I bumped into one of old friends, Matu, one of the most gregarious personalities I have met. During our ride back home, we talked about a variety of topics ranging from common acquaintances to very serious topics ...which I had an urge to capture...and which is what I have done...
“I had a long courtship for about five to six years before I tied the knot. When I married, I thought that I knew my husband in and out. Within a few days of living together, I realized that we were totally incompatible. Fights became an every day matter and so did tears...... until I realized that I had to be in a right frame of mind in order to be make myself be heard.
If you enter the realm of marriage thinking that you have a way out, believe me, that’s the worst thing which you can do to yourself......and a relationship as beautiful as marriage.
And since I had never even considered the option, I realized that I had to make it work. Of the two stubborn people thrown into a marriage like ours, if compromising on my part could restore the balance to an relationship on the decline, I thought “Why not?”
And if his love and support could be counted on, if he's rational, he would immediately return the gesture without much ado or fuss.”
If.........................
5 comments:
When it comes to taking the first step to work out relationships, the best time to take it is NOW.
Waiting indefinitely for the other, with a mental pehle aap, pehle aap is not going to work.
But then again, this will not work one-way. Both have to be willing to work it out, atleast one has to acknowledge the efforts the other is making, else the efforts are going nowhere.
I second Viky.
Your friend is very smart. :) I once read something like this - A lady said, "I don't mind giving up something small, when in return, I will get something much much greater", in the context of a relationship.
All the best to your friend!
"He is no fool, who will happily give up something he can not keep, to gain something he can not lose."
-/Viky
Howdu... :)!
-/Shruthi
Yup....chappaLe eraDu kai inda hoDidare maatra saadhyaa alve ;)?
"totally incompatible."
Really? :O
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