Sunday, June 25, 2006

Of impressions and experiences

Are first impressions really the best impressions? Are there something called instincts/sixth sense? If yes, how much do people rely on them today? And how much can people rely on them?

Malcolm Gladwell’s Blink has been an eye-opener in this regard.

The impressions with the aid of which we form relatiohships….sometimes, instantaneously and effortlessly without any visible force ….and sometimes just building up gradually. I wondered about the friends on whom I could rely on and realized there were very few whom I am proud to declare as my thick pals. Why?

I hit on a couple things simultaneously when I pondered about this:

I was less choosy during my youth (oh God.... I am speaking as if it’s a long time ago!). My parameters for friendship were very simple. Someone I could talk with.....and someone who could listen to my non-stop chatter :)!

With passing years......and mounting experience, I added communication, chemistry, comfort and security to the list. And have stuck to it......

My pals have neither the time nor the familiarity to know my for a very long time. Yet, they like me the way I am – sometimes serious, sometimes sarcastic......and most of all silent. They have not been antagonistic towards me......nor have they been publicly critical of my actions. True that I never confide in them most of my thoughts. Yet, they instinctively seem to understand the silence behind it. And have stood unflinching in their support. They know that when I drop them a mail, when I call them, it’s not just for the heck of it, or because I am bored......and the fact that they respect it makes me respect them all the more. And above all, there’s a sense of security in such relationships.....with no pointers to the past.

With every ‘learning’ experience, I have grown wise......but wary..... I have gained patience, but lost something infinitesimal yet elemental......

Until I can trust my instincts.....

13 comments:

Sujit said...

oh gosh!.. I just triggered out something and you post a huge post on that!..hmm..yup instinct play a role!.. either at the first shot or later on!..

wow.. you write things on the dot!!..

chitra said...

-/Sujit
Ha ha...yup! Am very instinctive you know... :)!

Phoenix said...

thats a part of growing up yar
sense plus plus
innocence minus minus

chitra said...

-/Phoenix
Hyuck hyuck...sooooper comment! I love it.. :)!

Sujit said...

so you are instinctive.. so your true yourself.. !!

Sujit said...

somtime instincts say to put on some work and the results that you get sometimes amuzes..!!.. that you yourself can;t belive in for a surprize.

chitra said...

-/Sujit
Hmmm...perhaps!

Avinash said...

sounds like u r getting old.. :P...

chitra said...

-/Avi
Yup....older and richer in experience :)!

Shruthi said...

Somebody's getting very philosophical and contemplative!! :) Just a phase?? But it's good anyway.. lots of sense pouring out from the past few posts ;)

chitra said...

-/Shruthi
Hey...thanku thanku :)!

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