Wednesday, May 03, 2006

I wonder.......?

Companionship + comfort + support + mutual respect + chemistry = Friendship?

Friendship + desire = Love?

Love + commitment = Marriage?


The best compliment that can be paid to anything artificial is being compared to the real thing. What about the real thing?


A house built on compromise can never be a home?


What exactly is meant “striking the right balance” in life? Does it mean the right kind of compromise at the right time?


Too much of money is too bad, so say the rich?


Is honesty or hypocrisy the best policy?


Is there anything that’s more destructive than ego?


Do men deserve women?


Where does all the money paid in tax go?


Is vanity always the name of thy woman?


Is there an upper limit set for compromise?


Can we fall in love as and when we wish to?


Why do some people derive a perverse pleasure in causing pain to others?


What's responsibility? Towards self......or towards your loved ones?


And what's that which stops us from expressing ourself whole-heartedly? Fear of being ridiculed or fear of being rejected?


When we spend time with people whom we like, are we doing them a favour...or ourselves a favour?

Ramblings and musings of an unrestrained mind..............

10 comments:

Shruthi said...

Very valid questions - well thought out.

I thought I would impart some of my gnana to you :D -- because strangely, most of these are questions that I have pondered over at some point or the other.

1) Friendship seems fine, but love is just not friendship + desire. It could be more, or less.
Marriage is much more than love + commitment. Whatever it is, it is a very very difficult relationship - needs a lot of nurturing! ( i know it sounds cliched, but it is true :0)

2) I have heard people saying, "That's a real plant? It looks so good, that I thought it was artificial". There, u have it.

3) It can be a home, but it is a home with cracks.

4) Yes.

5) No comments ;)

6) Honesty in personal life, hypocrisy in social situations, unless it exhausts you.

7) Anger :)

8) Yes, some of them do.

9) Wish I knew :(

10) Nope.

11) Nope. It can go to unimaginable extents. But that's unhealthy, to put it mildly.

12) Ah, I think, yes, you do have a little bit of a choice. You can feel undeniable attraction, but you may feel, nah, this is not the right kind of guy for me, and can avoid falling in love. Or, you can like a guy, not feel anything special, then you can feel.. he will be right for me, and then you can open your floodgates, and the love can come gushing out. ;) BUT there should be some basic feeling for it. But obviously, there are exceptions :)

13) By causing pain to others, they are causing pain to themselves. Punishing themselves. It is a sign of an unhealthy mind. These people need help :O

14) Towards self - first. Only then will u be strong enough to be responsible for others.

15) Both.

Take it all with a pinch of salt ;)

Shruthi said...

Hadn't noticed the last question -- ourselves :)

chitra said...

-/Shruthi
Cooollllll !! I loved your responses :) !! Thanks da!!

Rk said...

1) Might be one equation. It need not be the "only" one.
2) No. Much more or totally different.
3) Huh! Again very generic and acceptable definition for a short temporary moment of time.
4) Good question. A lame attempt at answering (I want to attempt all questions...never did it in school/college) Real thing gets its compliment from being useful. (again a narrow defn..but ..)
5) Can't say. If just the belief can be percieved as truth the whole life without encountering/producing proofs to change the belief, anything on earth is possible.
6)Yes...very right...even you can relax the time axis.
7) Not quite an irony, for they have seen the other side of the grass which is supposed to be green.
8) Justify that hyprocrisy is best policy ! ;-)
9) Yes. Jealousy. Hatred. Revenge.
10) The very first thought (on the lines of sponchi) - do women deserve men ?
On more thoughts, they do, either as much as or more than other way round.
11) Karmanye vaadhikaraste maa phaleshu kadachana ;-)
12) Dont know.
13)For the weak minded, no. For the strong willed, yes.
14) Immediate response - what crap....Thoughtfully, question is too general and subjective. And implementation specific !
15)Dont know.
16)Self first. Which in most cases will in turn be towards loved ones. In case if not, no probs. [No, I was not like this. But it really is meaningless to be more responsible to others than to oneself]
17)Dont know, bcoz nothing stops me. I believe in say what you want to say, do waht you want to do, -those who matter dont mind and those who mind dont matter etc etc. Simply put, I hate keeping the ball in my court, I hit it back first and then worry if it was a good shot or it went out of court. But then, the act is already committed :)
18)Of course ourselves, bcoz the inverse relation is not specified in the question. (I mean, if those whom we like really didnt like us, then it is a pain they are enduring and it is never our favour to them.) On the same thoughts, when you spend time with those whom you dont like, will you do them a favour or will you do yourself a favour (by saying bye) ?

Tell me how many points I scored and places where you expected an opposite/different reply from "me".

Rk said...

[OT]If you dont mind can you remove this popup for comments.

Shub said...

these r much more than 7 "WONDER"s of world...abt rest check ur mail:)

Anonymous said...

obviously,ninge thumba kelsa illa!!! ;O)
-J

chitra said...

-/Ravi
WOW....lotz match kaNo! Immediate clarification needed on this - "On more thoughts, they do, either as much as or more than other way round" - "they" refers to men or women? :)

-/Shub
Ya...replied too :)!!

-/Jyo
Humph....look who's talkingu :D !!

Rk said...

On more thoughts, men deserve women either as much as women deserve men or more than that.

chitra said...

-/Ravi
Hmmmm.....you think so??