Q&A

One of my earliest blogs was about rocking RJs on Radio City. Darius, one of my favorite RJs, hosts the evening show from six p.m to nine p.m. Yesterday, he had Sunaina, another RJ, joining him on his show. Together they made quite a blast, interspersing songs with witty exchanges (really smart replies) besides clippings from the Indian Idol Show. Some excerpts (the best of which I could remember):

Sunaina --> S

Darius --> D

S: Did you know that Darius had submitted his name for the Indian Idol but got booted out at the intial round?

D: No no Su….. I got selected all the way up to the finals. But then I was told to come to Mumbai. Remember, when I informed you over the phone, you pleaded me not to leave you (a big guffaw from Sunaina) since it would break your heart. (some-glasses-breaking-in-the-background noise).

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S: We have a contestant in the Indian Idol show whose ambition is to meet John Abraham. I mean who just wants to meet John Abraham?

D: What do you mean? Don’t you want to meet him?

S: No, what I mean to say is, I do not want to just meet him.

D: Okay .. let me take a guess – is it something to do with clothes?

S: Nooooooo…… (sounds of someone being thumped on the head)

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S: Darius, you should be thankful that I am here. I make the show look good.

D: Oh yeah?? Then I should say that I make the show sound good !! (what a repartee!)

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Sunaina reveals that it’s her birthday the following day.

S: The only reason I am revealing this is I want lots of presents.

D: That’s pretty selfish.

S: Darius, let me take the opportunity to reveal that your birthday is just after mine. So what gift are you giving me on my birthday?

D: Depends on what you are giving me on my birthday. But frankly speaking, don’t you think that my presence alone is the biggest birthday gift?

(A loud ‘Awwwwwwwwwwwww’ from Sunaina)

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What was evident for all to hear (and perhaps sense) was the easy camaraderie they shared on the platform. This set me off on a tangent - if everyone is viewed as an individual with diverse interests, tastes and opinions, it's difficult to accept someone different. And very few people are diplomatic in their personal relationships - I guess something to do with heart rather than the head :) !

So, how do some people manage relationships successfully? Does it involve masking of their true feelings, putting up with humiliation (all in the name of fun, of course) and impossible demands? And what makes people afraid of new relationships (like marriage)? Is it the commitment factor or the responsibility? How much of give-and-take is involved? Does a person have to change in order to sustain a relationship? So many questions……. and a few answers as well !

I was chatting with Sree - a good friend of mine - regarding Universal Change :

Me: The closer you get to a person, the more you discover the vices (after all no person is perfect). Then comes the crunch - you can accept the vices and continue the relationship OR get disgusted/insulted/pissed-off/hurt and discontinue the relationship. Of course, I am missing out all the pain felt during the interim period. But this is how life goes on :) !!

Sree's response was apt:

How long before you realize that not only are you close to him, he is close to you as well? How long before you feel that you need some room? No one likes to be tied up.

He had a very valid point that everyone is selfish and self-absorbed. And since everyone had only one life, shouldn't they live it the way they like it?

Well….. the question and answer session continues…………