Tuesday, December 05, 2006

The enemy within...

This post is intended for only mortals. The other types – er......I can’t stop you from reading, can I?



As self-possessed, independent individuals, we appear to present a confident persona to the rest of the world. And we trust to reveal our ‘softer’ sides to people close to us, in whom we have implicit trust. However, there always remains a vestige of self-doubt, a twinge of regret – am I good enough? As children, we had our elders soothe these self-doubts within us. If such feelings persist in us even as adults, does that mean that there could have been some room for improvement during our childhood? Could it be traced back to the lack of ‘proper’ encouragement and guidance in our childhood?



Lack of confidence, the feeling of being useless, of not being ‘good enough’, of being a ‘failure’ in life......before you indulge in such feelings which are synonymous with self-pity, halt those train of thoughts and pause......think for a moment – if someone is the cause of such thoughts, then think of those who have benefited in a positive manner by you. Surely, there must have been at least one........with or without your knowledge.




The best part about childhood is no worries (about the present, past and future), no intense thoughts, no misunderstandings, no complicated relationships. Only unconditional love given and received and an uncomplicated view of how the world works. To be a child again......sighhhhhhhhhhhh.......



If wishes were pearls, I would have gathered enough to string a necklace :-)!

10 comments:

Sujit said...

well at some-point or the self-doubt always. It mainly depends on the reference of the capability in comparison. If someone is better in some sense let they be.. you are better in some way why to compare?.. but comparison is natural.. you need over-ride that!.

Back-tracking or lack of guidance is not the exact problem.. like parents or freinds are like coaches of the field.. you are player.. domains are diffrent! but learning and applicability matters..!

hmm.. yeah.. wishes.. :)

Phoenix said...

think less honey, and smile more...that increases the child-component of the sad adult life...

chitra said...

-/Sujit
Ya...I totally agree regarding that comparision factor. True....

-/Phoenix
Tee hee....sure...give me a few causes ;-)!

The Avenger !!! said...

quite true. I sometimes feel the same but then i rest under the fact that I have enough people praying for me to make me get up and fight.

nice one chitzzz, been a long time since i came visiting but hell being trying to figure out something in life and hence the delay apologies again :)

chitra said...

-/Avenger
Hey...good to hear that! And ya..welcome back :-)!

Sujit said...

wow!.. finally got at the point.. after missing with episilon close..:)

chitra said...

There as you said, lack of motivation may be the cause , but as Sujit said, it is the applicability, wherein you ca see one sibling way ahead of others!!

Sometimes, these can be psychological too, arising out of depression and a session with shrink wd do a lot good to improve one's morale.

endevourme said...

workload came down kya?

Pritika Gupta said...

hmm another post on lack of self confidence.. stop thinking dear!!

chitra said...

-/Sujit
It was a valid point :-)!

-/Chitra
Ya...true! But shrink?? Aaah....

-/Endevourme
Ayyo...nope! It's the same as ever !

-/Pritika
Tee hee...kya kare...control nahi hota!