She tells something. He tells something. They fight. And ......they sulk like children while each waiting the other to apologize first.
But recently, I realized one thing – I am no different from such dumb people.
Reason – I refused to justify myself in order to save a relationship.
There are times when I have to make an effort to make myself understood to people who are close to me......whom I value a lot. Since any relationship requires some amount of work to keep it alive, I really do not mind this. But when it comes to matter of questioning my core, it takes a lot of effort in my part to coherently explain.....to make people understand. And that person has to be really special for me to re-visit those murky depths. There should be a kind of commitment involved......a true sense of security - that I do not get ‘punished’ for expressing my thoughts....when I am assured that there's no kind of abuse from the other end.....when I feel free in expressing myself both on an emotional and physical level.
If I am intelligent, do I have to prove my intelligence at each and every turn of life?
If I am talented, do I have to play down my talent to make someone feel more secure?
If I am strong, do I have to elaborate the reasons, most of them too painful to recount, that have contributed to my strength?
Does the rule of getting as good as you give hold good all the time?
Why can’t I lean for comfort....why can’t I expect a shoulder to cry on...without ego boundaries...without untold explanations?