Once upon a time, I had mentioned writing a fundoo post about relationships. To those with whom I have already shared these views, I regret to say that it will be a repeat telecast :). For the rest, continue maaDi.....
There are three levels to any relationship:
Level 1: Illi jagaLakke aaspada bandaroo people do not bother expressing it because it's simply not worth that time and effort. Plus, it will be a minor matter...something akin to an irritation, that's all.
Level 2: Illi jagaLa aadre, the first thing which is usually done by either of the parties is talk it out..... Illu muchu-marege aaspada illa. Simply because the comfort level of the relationship is too good. And one knows that by bringing everything to the open, there's nothing to lose :)!
Level 3: Illi barodu talebisi!! Yaakendre, by expressing your anger, it would mean that you are affected by that person, that the other party has somehow managed to get underneath your skin. And this would amount to showing their vulnerable side :), which most people are not comfortable! A special mention has to be made of guys in this regard - they retreat into a shell until they come to some sort of logical conclusion /solution about this 'problem'. Can't blame them though......which is why 'emotional' is a term restricted to ladies!
Level 4: Pecheeda situation!! The basis of having good communication is trust- i.e. trust that one does not get "punished" or hurt for expressing one's honest thoughts and feelings. An abusive person can be defined as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your emotions. I wish I could state "Prevention is better than cure". However, it's not as simple as that. It's only with time the risks are unearthed....and by then, it may be a tad too late for any damage-control :)!
And then,there are some which simply have to be experienced...and not analysed.....